Monday, August 20, 2007

Reflections on boredom

This week has been really hard with Bailey. I think coming off Beach Project and the whole summer in general where she was always with people and always had something fun to do or someone to play with has been an adjustment (I can relate). Especially the mornings are hard while Owen takes his nap. Playdoh, crayons and watercolors only get you so far and then she's bored again. Everytime she wants my attention and I am busy, or she can't do something she wants, she says that she doesn't feel good. I had (and still am a little) been struggling with her having to be bored, until I realized that our problem is alike and I do the same thing. When I am bored, I call someone to talk, or go run an errand I don't really need to run, or see if a friend wants to hang out (these are not necessarily bad things). I want something to fill me, and so does she. We both have the same void, and we both want to fill it by shoving something else but God in there so we'll feel better (it's just been hard because she wants that something to be me). As I was thinking about all this, I realized that not only do I have to let her be bored sometimes, but it is GOOD for her. How else will she understand that she has a hole in her heart that longs for something greater if I never let her feel it because I'm too busy keeping her entertained (and how can I talk to her about that feeling in a way she can understand when she is older if she is never allowed to feel it)? Anyway, these thoughts have helped me look at things differently, and even in talking to her about being bored sometimes.

2 comments:

nick, robyn and taylor said...

What a neat realization, Kim! Thanks for sharing. Also, I read recently that "boredom jumpstarts their creativity and motivates them to try new things." Of course your realization is more important, but I thought I'd share this :)

katie said...

wow kim - that was good to hear. i'm so glad there are wise moms like you who have gone before me, and can share their wisdom... i needed that. (not just for campbell - but for my own boredom problem... which i have had a lot lately since ben lives at the hospital :) ) hope you guys are doing well - we miss you all terribly!
katie compton